No, and anyone who tells you it is has either never been genuinely dependent or is selling something. But hard and impossible are not the same thing, and understanding specifically why it is hard is the beginning of making it more manageable.
Read MoreStop trying to generate more motivation and start understanding why motivation alone has never been sufficient, and what needs to accompany it.
Read MoreNothing yet. You are not in the wrong place for not wanting to quit. But the gap between knowing and wanting deserves examination, because it is rarely what it appears to be.
Read MoreStop looking for more willpower, and start understanding why willpower was never the right tool, so you can reach for the one that actually works.
Read MoreThe best time is specific, near, and already decided, not when life calms down, not after this one last stressful period, not on a symbolic date months away.
Read MoreThis question is usually asked of someone who has quit, looking for the one thing, the turning point, the reason that was finally enough. The honest answer is rarely what the asker expects.
Read MoreReadiness is not a feeling that arrives before you quit. It is a state you construct deliberately through preparation, not through waiting.
Read MoreYes, and it is almost certainly now, or as close to now as a specific quit date within the next two weeks allows.
Read MoreA reason that makes the cost of continuing feel higher than the cost of stopping combined, in the attempts that actually hold, with a method that addresses the circuit rather than just the intention.
Read MoreMental preparation is not motivational- it is informational and structural. You are not psyching yourself up. You are building an accurate map of what is coming and deciding specifically what you will do when each part of it arrives.
Read MoreBecause saying you will quit is a prefrontal act and quitting is a limbic problem. The part of the brain that makes the promise and the part of the brain that breaks it are not the same part.
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